Do men feel heartbroken aswel?

[hope!]

Right heres my problem...Men! haha! not that easy.... Everytime i get with someone, it turns out someone else is also going out with them...or they just Totally Cheat on me!?! And i just Dont get it? please someone shed some light on this for me...is it me? or doesnt this happen to everyone?! i know im still young and everyone says il find my Knight in Shining armour but i just dont see it happen....IS THIS JUST ME THAT FEELS THIS WAY? and do men also have the same problem? xxxx

[Sean]

Its not just you, although I know where you're coming from. Seems everyone else has it easily fall into place. At the moment I'm seeing this girl who is still with her boyfriend as they live together and she's got nowhere else to go. She's a lovely girl and so cheating doesn't come easy to her, and so its all very complicated and she feels guilty and backs off a lot. I hate it, but I care to much to just walk away like I know I should.

[hope!]

Really? i know it sounds sooo daft but i didnt think men got themselfs into situations like that! Naive i know! and i know you say she soo kind hearted and cheating in not in her nature, but how can you be sure? I could never bring myself to get with someone who has cheated because nothing doesnt stop them doing it again, do you know what i mean by that? I really hope your ok though and please dont become a walk over! xxx


Sean said:

Its not just you, although I know where you're coming from. Seems everyone else has it easily fall into place. At the moment I'm seeing this girl who is still with her boyfriend as they live together and she's got nowhere else to go. She's a lovely girl and so cheating doesn't come easy to her, and so its all very complicated and she feels guilty and backs off a lot. I hate it, but I care to much to just walk away like I know I should.

[Sean]

She's since decided to stop seeing me in favour of one of her ex's. Turns out cheating was something she quickly got the hang of!

I'm forever getting into bad situations, so don't think it's just you. Its always been a long and tiring struggle to find someone decent who won't mess you about and play games with you. And one that's not over yet.

[hope!]

I know exactly how you feel... just been out tonight and kinda had the same situation happen...except my "mate" started flirting with a guy i like....Argh! theres better people out there for us! xx

[Sean]

I don't know- seems like most people are arseholes. Still suppose we should try to stay hopeful- for all the good that'll do.

[Blonderocker]

I am a lot older than you and have found that most men are cheaters! It is so disheartening! And disappointing. I am so against cheating. You should not be with someone if you wanna fuck around. It is very hurtful to do that to someone. I was fooled and hurt really bad by my last boyfriend. He was a damn good actor. Claimed he was so against cheating and ended up cheating on me with 2 other girls! He hid it well for a long time. I am beginning to think that men are born with some kind of cheating chromosome! lol You said that every time you get with someone it turns out that someone else is going out with them. Do you find that out after you start going out with them or do you know from the beginning? If they hide it and you find out afterward then they are cheaters, If they tell you and you know from the beginning that is different. Cheaters and liars are the worst.
And I can't tell you how many married men have hit on me and they all have the same stories. They are either not in a good marriage or say they are gonna leave their wives or get a divorce. But they are still there and never leave their wives. I have been smart enough never to have gone there and fallen for that. As for the Knight in Shining Armour, I hate to burst your bubble kid, but there aren't any. And that sucks. Wouldn't it be great if there were?

[Blonderocker]

I don't think that you get yourself into bad situations Sean, you are just a nice person and want to believe people but people can be very deceptive! I used to trust people and believe them but have been fucked over so many times now that I don't any more. I have been easily fooled and have to be careful. People have amazed me at what good liars and actors they are. Pisses me off tho. I don't trust anyone automatically any more, they have to earn my trust, or believe them till I am shown that what they tell me is the truth. A hell of a way to have to live but have to. Gotta protect myself.
I've been through enough bullshit. lol

Sean said:

She's since decided to stop seeing me in favour of one of her ex's. Turns out cheating was something she quickly got the hang of!

I'm forever getting into bad situations, so don't think it's just you. Its always been a long and tiring struggle to find someone decent who won't mess you about and play games with you. And one that's not over yet.